Swingland: Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, But Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle (Hardcover)
The wryly amusing and revealing story of one man's journey into the swinger lifestyle that pulls back the curtain on one of the most fascinating--and least understood--subcultures in the nation. A wry and revealing story of one man's journey into the swinger lifestyle that pulls back the curtain on one of our most fascinating--and private--subcultures An estimated fifteen million strong worldwide, swingers are everywhere--a huge community hiding in plain sight whose erotic pastime remains a complete mystery to the rest of us. In Swingland, Daniel Stern outs himself and the secretive society he loves, recounting his transformation from a bumbling neophyte terrified of all things carnal into a veteran sexual adventurer. Once confined to suburban key parties and private clubs, "swinging" has transformed, via the Internet, into a free-for-all. Today only a few mouse clicks locates your perfect couple (or couples), far easier and less riskily than ever before (no worrying about running into them at PT A meetings). There are plenty of bumps and bruises along the way for Stern, including countless rejections, missed opportunities, and one particular AARP orgy. But slowly and surely, through an impressive series of threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, this "Vanilla" newbie becomes a much sought-after partner for couples looking to spice up their relationships. During his exploits, he learns a whole new lexicon (there aren't many single women swingers, or "Unicorns," but plenty of MFMs, FMFs, MFMFs, and GBs), as well as invaluable advice (be honest, open, and know your limits). But Swingland is much more than a titillating expose. Stern's wit and infectious enthusiasm make Swingland as improbably safe as it is fun--and impossible to put down. All are welcome, but bring flip-flops (it can get messy).
“If you want to know your MFM from your MMF, your NSA from your GB and so much more, here's a man who's been there and done everything! Swingland is the erotic equivalent of a travelogue, Stern is an excellent X-rated tour guide through the often misunderstood world of swinging.”
-Rachel Kramer Bussel, Editor, The Big Book of Orgasms
"Swingland is everything you need to know about swinging, whether it's your thing or it isn't. Stern isn't trying to pull punches here. He's the real deal, and it shows. Especially in chapters like Synthesis, bedded down in a lovely little section called Intercourse. This book is a must-read. I also thought it was really funny that he says 'DON'T be creepy' in a guidebook to swingers. Brilliant."
-Oriana Small a.k.a. Ashley Blue, author of Girlver: A Porno Memoir
"Delightfully self-deprecating, and unrelentingly honest. Swingland offers an insightful glimpse into a strange sexual world."
-Sam Benjamin, author of American Gangbang