Brandon Kyle Goodman, in conversation with Vincint, discusses You Gotta Be You: How to Embrace This Messy Life and Step Into Who You Really Are


From the time we're born, a litany of do's and don'ts are placed on us by our families, our communities, and society. We're required to fit into boxes based on our race, gender, sexuality, and other parts of our identities, being told by others how we should behave, who we should date, or what we should be interested in. For so many of us, those boxes begin to feel like shackles when we realize they don't fit our unique shape, yet we keep trying because we crave acceptance and validation. But is "fitting in" worth the time, energy, and suffering? Actor, writer, and activist Brandon Kyle Goodman says, Hell no it ain't!

As a Black nonbinary, queer person in a dark-skinned 6'1", 180-pound male body born into a religious immigrant household, Brandon knows the pain of having to hide one's true self, the work of learning to love that true self, and the freedom of finally being your true self.

In You Gotta Be You, Brandon affectionately challenges you to consider, "Who would I be if society never got its hands on me?" This question set Brandon on a mission to dropkick societal shackles by unlearning all the things he was told he should be in order to step into who he really is. It required him to reexamine messy but ultimately defining moments in his life--his first time being followed in a store, navigating his mother's born-again Christianity, and regretfully using soap as lube (yes, you read that right!)--to find the lessons that would guide him to his most authentic self.

Compassionate and soulful, funny and revealing, You Gotta Be You is an unapologetic call to self-freedom. It's about turning rejection (from others and yourself) into a roadmap to self-love. It's a guide to setting boundaries and fostering self-growth. And most importantly, it's an affirmation that we are enough exactly as we are. (Legacy Lit)

Vincint has been hailed by PAPER as “one of the greatest vocalists of our generation” and “a legend in the making,” by Billboard. VINCINT’s songcraft and radiance has brought him to our culture’s most beloved stages, highlighted by headlining performances at Los Angeles Pride, multiple sold-out shows in New York City and Los Angeles, and the 2020 Oscars as part of Cynthia Erivo’s choir to name a few. Since a star-making turn on the Fox competition series The Four in 2018, the Philadelphia native has dominated national conversations and captivated millions across the globe with big-hearted pop music, sang proudly through “a megaphone of self-love,” as described by LADYGUNN. His 2020 debut EP The Feeling was met by critical applause and led to the single “Be Me,” a recent hit that catapulted the artist to stratospheric heights last summer after it became the official Season 5 trailer track of Netflix’s smash series Queer Eye.


Event date: 
Friday, October 14, 2022 - 7:00pm
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Book Soup
8818 Sunset Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 99069
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You Gotta Be You: How to Embrace This Messy Life and Step Into Who You Really Are By Brandon Kyle Goodman Cover Image
ISBN: 9780306826191
Availability: On Our Shelves Now
Published: Legacy Lit - September 27th, 2022